Comments on: Reasons Why it Sucks to be Single

By: Jason

Jason — Wed, 06 May 2009 06:59:10 +0000

Haha, I really haven’t been here in awhile!

I’m glad that this was interesting to read in perspective. It’s interesting for me too. I’ve also come a ways since the time I wrote this, and I agree with what you’re saying: that time and heartbreak does make people more realistic and jaded, but still capable of love and hope.

I’ve also come to think that there will always be times where we’ll remember something that makes us smile or frown or flinch, just like there will be times when we can’t do anything else but forget about everything except the person in front of us. Life’s just weird, but interesting, that way.

Thank you, all, for the comments; this last one in particular reminded me that I /do/ have a blog, and since I’ve got something to get off my chest, I’ll be updating again soon. :)

By: Laura

Laura — Fri, 01 May 2009 21:15:21 +0000

hello Jason. You probably don’t check this thing anymore but I have to let you know this post helped me at a very difficult time.

First time I read this was last year..mid march I think, after a 3 year relationship had been terminated by him. I had lived with him, he was my first, my best friend, and then bam suddenly I was alone. I was miserable..and it’s true, when you’re alone everything does remind you of them and you listen to shitty music, get drunk constantly and the world DOESN’T stop. However, as time passed I realized that my constantly repeating “i can’t live without him” was contradicted by the fact that I was. And then I met a cool dude around May who I didn’t realize existed and sloooooooooooooooooooooooooowly learned to trust someone again..sort of. stilll working on it :)

anyway the point of this comment was to thank you for writing this. I somehow stumbled upon it via google once more and read from a new perspective because this time I don’t have a bleeding heart heh. It just reminded me of how much it helped me, a little bit, in a time where I had never felt more alone. I don’t think people ever truly recover from a break up, the naive person they were before who believed in everlasting love is slaughtered and you’re left with a more realistic version of yourself who, at times can be jaded, but still loves and hopes in a different way. I guess. Anyway, kudos to you and you should write more. You’re pretty good.

By: christina

christina — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 03:03:43 +0000

being single sucks especially when youve been in a relationshiop for like ever and now you have these kids and your all alone

By: Al

Al — Tue, 17 Mar 2009 16:31:31 +0000

Thanks for saying this important – but apparently rather unpopular – truth, Jason. At least it is a truth for some of us, and I can totally relate to it. Different people have different needs, and it singularly irritates me when some lesson-givers tell us that we ought to be different from what we are in this regard. Some people can make do with 5 hours of sleep per night; others need about 9. The person who tells them that they ought to make do with only 5 is a fool; and pointing to oneself and say “I can make do with 5 hours per night” is no argument. The same goes for romantic needs. Clearly there’s a pressure, in the society in which we live, to say about oneself “I’m single and perfectly happy as I am, it would be cool to find a partner but that would just be a bonus in my already freakin’ amazing life”. If you say anything else you’ll be perceived as a turnoff not merely by potential partners, but also by many people in your social circle. So you have to hide the truth. Being single sucks, and so does our society.

By: queen bee

queen bee — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 18:25:09 +0000

jeez!!! being single really is not the be all and end all in the world! im single, and i absolutely love it. yes, i do sometimes wish that i had someone, but like the previous person said, when you are single you get to do so much more things than as one half of a couple. when you’re single you can go out and meet new people all the time, and you do get to find out who you are as an individual as opposed to one half of a couple. i think that everyone should know who they are first and be independent before they get into a relationship and define themselves according to a relationship otherwise when that relationship fails then they are screwed to the max!!!
and yes, there is someone out there for everyone (who actually knows), but until then have fun and enjoy being by yourself instead of pining about it and feeling sorry for yourself.

By: 3lm0l0v3r

3lm0l0v3r — Tue, 11 Mar 2008 10:25:42 +0000

After 6 failed relations, i learned the value of being single.. hehehe :) true, there isn’t much to like about being single but there is something to look forward to.. when you’re single, you get to do a lot of things you haven’t done before.. you become someone you thought you’re not.. and it’s not a negative thing.. even better because you know yourself more.. when alone, you realize what you want.. i guess, it’s a matter of perspective.. of how you look on things about singlehood.. but of course, i don’t want to end up alone as well.. at the end of the day.. i want to be with someone.. i want to grow old with someone.. and yes.. there’s one person meant for you.. just wait.. patience is a virtue.. :)

By: Kimberly

Kimberly — Wed, 20 Feb 2008 06:06:20 +0000

I definitely agree with you… being single is NO fun. I don’t know if you’ve ever seen the movie “the wedding date”, if not, there’s this part where this guy says every woman has the love life she desires. And that quote always frightens me… I’m alone- this is obviously NOT what I want… but am I not capable of having a relationship due to some inner thoughts and barriers I am not aware of? Hmmm….